Humans have been struggling with one thing called Relations from time immemorial… but it seems that most of us haven’t been able to yet understand what Relations are. We spend our life trying to live these relationships without even really understanding that all of these relations are not real. To me relations are very transactional. Any relation between two persons is nothing but a series of transactions, some transactions can be very superior and some might not be that superior but all of the relations are transactions of different nature. And a transaction is one which is dependent on give and take, the moment there is dis-balance in give and take, we see problems in that relation. Look at husband and wives, girl friend and boy friend, mother and child, father and son, brother and sister, any relationship you see… its nothing but a series of transactions. Modern husbands need to spend a loving weekend with a great movie, a great dinner and a great shopping experience (this is called a perfect weekend) with wives and in return wives will take care of household stuff, children, kitchen and ofcouse the sexual needs of the husband. If husbands don’t provide this (Perfect weekend) to the wives, the transactional relationship goes for a toss. Every father has a dream for his son and if the son doesn’t full fill that dream, the entire relation goes for a toss. The whole problem is that we feel ashamed in admitting that all our relations are nothing but series of transactions. A relationship can become pure in true senses, can become god like if there are no give and takes, if there are no expectations, if there is utmost selflessness.
Devotion is the purest form of relation, actually its not correct to call devotion as a form of relation because devotion is very god like and relations are very transactional. When you are in devotion, there is no expectation, you do things out of your inner feelings, there is a total trust, there is a total selflessness a total oneness. In devotion, duality doesn’t exist, there is no other, you become one. That is why devotion is god like, that is why with god there is a relation of god and devotee, there is total surrender, total trust, total selflessness. In devotion, god doesn’t expect anything from you and you don’t expect anything from god.
Today humanity is suffering coz of false relationship, there is no depth. If you have to live a fulfilled life, you have to uplift all your relationships in devotion. The day you start seeing god in every being around you, that day devotion takes birth in you and then there is no relationship, then you are in devotion with everybody around you, you become one with all. It is a supreme communion between two beings, in this communion transactions don’t exist, there is only love, a supreme devotion.
Love to the god sitting inside you.
I have read an article “Relation and Devotion” by Anish Joel.
It is very much true that relations are just a form of transactions especially in modern times.Relationship between god and devotee is true relationship that is given the name devotion,
but i think there is still one relationship, the relationship between mother and child or rather we can say devotion of mother towards her children.